Relationship Secrets for Women

Did You Know Any of These Tidbits about Kissing?

2010-11-13T20:52:00.003-05:00

I found this article with a few interesting tidbits about kissing. Number nine was particularly interesting. I'll have to make sure my husband kisses me everyday before he goes to work! Probably won't work, but it is worth a try.

Tips and Tricks to Look Thinner

2010-10-17T13:54:00.003-04:00

I saw Clinton Kelly talking about some of these things during an interview the other day. I truly enjoy watching him on What Not to Wear with Stacy London.

As a woman we always want to look thinner. It doesn't really matter if we are already thin, in our minds we could still look thinner. See if any of these tips could help you achieve your goals.

What is That Supposed to Mean?

2010-03-07T08:04:00.002-05:00

Ever wonder what your guy really means when he says something? Well, here's a simple list to get you started.

Being Single on Valentine's Day Isn't So Bad

2010-02-01T21:14:00.002-05:00

It is kind of like planning your New Year's Eve kiss. You start thinking about it long in advance and wonder who the lucky guy will be. Then somehow, New Year's Eve passes and you didn't get the wonderful kiss you dreamed of. You survived though. Chances are you'll survive if you have to spend Valentine's Day alone too.

Signs a Marriage Won't Work

2009-06-27T17:44:00.008-04:00

So, do you fit into any of these categories?

Sadly, I think a lot of us do. Our generation of women has been brought up that we are equals and deserve respect from our spouse. While I agree with this, I think it has caused many women to over compensate. They end up demanding respect instead of earning it. A lot of us have the mentality, "I earn money for this family too, so I can buy and do whatever I want...regardless of what you think."

Unfortunately, that is a recipe for disaster. When in a relationship with someone, it is about what both parties want. While sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, you can almost always come to a compromise. Without a compromise and an agreement, you create resentment.

Resentment is like a cancer in any relationship. It will often lie silent until it is too late and you can't go back. Talk to your partner and work things out when the issue first comes up. I know in my experience, it has often taken more than one conversation, but an agreement can be made. When you do this, both people involved feel like they have been heard and have gotten at least some of what they want.

What do Happy Couples Do Differently?

2009-02-24T22:32:00.010-05:00

In my personal experience, I have found that having regular conversations with each other makes a huge difference. The conversations can be about anything...the economy, gossiping about your in-laws, your likes and dislikes in food, or where you would go if you could go anywhere in the world. You could truly talk about anything. The point is to just have a conversation - whether it seems important or not.

Since I'm not a professional, I don't know why this works. Maybe as a woman, it fulfills our need to be listened to. I really don't know. However, if you think about it, any relationship you have, no matter who it may be with (friend, sister, neighbor, etc.) you enjoy being around them - and you learn so much about them when you have conversations with them.

Talking to my husband about my day and my feelings makes me feel almost relieved. Like, "There! I got it out, and now it will be okay." And deep in the back of my mind there is this feeling that it will be okay because he knows about it, and he will take care of me. That may sound odd or weird, but it's true. I think when I talk to him about my problems he also feels needed. Unfortunately, he often goes into "fix it mode" when all I want to do is talk my problem out...I don't really expect a solution.

In doing this daily talk, we learn so much about our partner - what bothers him/her, how he/she would react to a situation, we even learn about their morals and priorities.

I encourage you to set aside time each day, and just talk about anything. I promise it will make a positive difference in your relationship - I know it has in mine.

5 Things Super Happy Couples do Every Day

What Husbands Can't Resist

Do You Know the Secrets to A Successful Marriage?

2009-01-02T00:48:00.004-05:00

This is a question that plagues many of us, and unfortunately most of us really don't have a clue what the answers are. We base our lives on the expectation that because we love someone life with them will be easy and without conflict. Truth is, nothing could be more wrong...just ask any parent of a teenager!

Marriage takes work. I know, I know -- that can mean so many things. What it essentially means is that it is a daily job. You have to focus on it, put time and effort into it, feed it, and nurture it. It won't grow or work on its own.

I seldom find an article that has true meaty substance to it, but this author really seems to know what she's writing about. So much of what she wrote I already know, but for some reason it sinks in a little more and differently when you see it in print. A lot was pointed out to me, and maybe you will take something away from it too.

A Man's Perspective on What He Notices About Women

2008-11-19T21:17:00.011-05:00

We, as women, have a tendency to think that most men are very primal and only notice certain things about a woman, such as the size of her breasts, her seductive eyes, or her sensuous lips, but the author of this article adds a little more insight.

According to him, a man's eyes really do go beyond a woman's chest. Personally, I think a lot of what he says goes along with what Bob Grant says in The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to Leave. Mr. Grant says that men are attracted to women that are feminine.

Fortunately for us women, I think we all like to look pretty and already do the things that Rich Santos mentions, but if you don't, here's your to-do list.

Men notice a woman's hands. This shouldn't be a problem since so many of us get manicures and love to have a nice set of talons. What I find interesting is how men also notice the mannerisms in which you use your hands, hold, and touch things.
Don't forget the mane. Of course, men love long hair (sorry, but its true.) They like hair that is soft and that they can run their fingers through. This also shouldn't be an issue because if any of you are like me, your tresses are like an extension of your personality. I like for mine to look healthy and perfect, but somehow unique.
Be nice to people...just use your manners. I guess it goes without saying that people notice a person who genuinely treats others with respect and kindness. Apparently, it is something that attracts men...as it should be. No man wants to take a woman out that he fears will start a bar fight because of her horrid attitude.
What does she notice? No one likes a superficial girl. However, attention to detail is often an asset. It is a fine line that you have to tread with caution.

So, while it may take some extra time to do your hair and nails to look like a million bucks, it pays off. Not only will the men in your path notice it, it will boost your confidence as well. And we could all use a little confidence boost!

What a Man Really Wants

2008-11-08T12:33:00.001-05:00

I just read this article, and I think it sums up what men want perfectly. The author really hit the nail on the head.

Men don't communicate with words. In fact, unless you want to continue hitting your head against the wall, you have to wait until the right time to talk to him. The only time you can talk to a man about something deep is when he is vulnerable.

There is really no recipe for recognizing when he is vulnerable, but you will know when it happens. If you aren't sure, then it is probably the wrong time. When he is vulnerable, that is the time to talk about things - he won't hear you any other time. Unfortunately, these opportunities don't come about often, so you may end up waiting a while. Just be patient, and make a mental note about what is important for you to talk about when the time is right.

You may also want to take a look at my web-page about how to be the woman that men adore.

Take a Look at this E-book

2008-10-31T17:53:00.000-04:00

Take a look at this e-book from Bob Grant, L.P.C. I highly recommend it.

Mr. Grant has been counseling women for over 17 years. He has compiled all of the things that he has learned and found to be effective into this e-book for people like you. He even guarantees that it will work .

He tells you exactly what to do - and not do, to get your man back. A lot of you will find that you have already done some of the things that he says not to do. Not to worry, just move forward from where you are, and start being proactive.

An E-book For Your Marriage

2008-10-22T22:25:00.001-04:00

I'm sure not every marriage is a work in progress, but I assume most of them are. If nothing else, marriage is taking two completely different people with different backgrounds and trying to mesh them together into one family, and that in and of itself is an uphill battle.

I read What Husbands Can't Resist recently and I was surprised that it offered so much practical information. It was written in a conversational tone as if you are speaking with a therapist. Kind of like a question and answer session. I found it interesting and enjoyable to read.

Mr. Grant, author of The Woman Men Adore...And Never Want to Leave, tells you how to spot when your husband is reacting because of something that happened in his past (long before you), why he probably doesn't always tell you he loves you, and how you can unarm him and bring him to his knees in an instant.

Although a perfect marriage is rare, a happy marriage is not. However, it takes work. You can't change the world, but you can start in your own home with yourself. When you can change your own behaviors, your husband will respond...and I promise you will see a difference.

I have personally used some of the suggestions in this book, and they do work. I'm glad I read it and I hope you will give it a chance too.

Why Do Men Really Cheat?

2008-09-20T00:53:00.001-04:00

I found this article, Dating 101: The Truth About Why Men Cheat interesting.

However, let me first point out that I never trust percentages or statistical numbers. Just look over and read this article with an open mind to learn something - don't pay attention to the numbers.

Differences Between Men and Women

2008-09-10T17:54:00.000-04:00

This is an old video of Bill Engvall, but it is so funny and true. I just had to post it because it makes me laugh every time I see it.

Have fun. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have.

So, What Are Men Looking For?

2008-08-27T18:38:00.002-04:00

Most of us think that all men want a woman who is skinny, busty, has long hair, and is beautiful. While that is easy on the eyes, it isn't really what makes a man want to be with you. (Of course, I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to be that woman.)

Men like women that are confident.

They like a woman who isn't threatened when he doesn't call the next day, a woman who has a social life and isn't completely absorbed in him, and a woman who sets boundaries.

A confident woman knows who she is and doesn't depend on other people to make her feel good about herself. Men can sniff insecurity out instantly.

They like a woman that is feminine.

Men may want you to think that they are impressed by a woman who can change the oil in her car and reel in a 15 lb. catfish, but they really don't. They are attracted to her at first, but honestly, those are things that they can do with their guy friends. They will eventually get bored and move on.

Men also love women that are soft spoken.

A woman will never be able to get through to a man by raising her voice. Men are wired for competition. As soon as they sense a challenge, its all over. Women are not made to compete with a man, we just simply can't do it. Men hear us loud and clear when we are being soft and approachable.

These are some traits that make any woman special to a man. Try them out for yourself an see how they work for you.

How Do You Treat Your Spouse?

2008-08-21T18:39:00.000-04:00

Take a look at this article. It has a few interesting points about how to avoid a divorce. Just make sure you come back after you read it, because I want to discuss one of the points that stood out to me the most...okay, click on over.

Now that you have read that...my favorite was #8.

I'm sure everyone is aware that we could all treat our loved ones a bit nicer, but have you ever really thought about how much nicer you treat everyone else besides them?

I know personally, that by the time I get home everyday I am usually exhausted and worn out. My boss, my co-workers, my friends, and strangers that I meet get my very best, and unfortunately, my family gets whatever is left over.

So many people, myself included, are short and often rude to our loved ones, even when we don't intend to be. We often will just say, "You're in front of the T.V.!" or "How many times do I have to ask you to put your dirty clothes in the hamper?" Would we have dared to say such a thing to a stranger? I doubt it.

Just think about what a difference it would make in everyone's life if we would just treat our families like strangers! That may have come out wrong...you know what I mean. We need to treat them with the same courtesy that would treat someone that we bumped into at the store - "Oh, excuse me! I didn't mean to step on your toes."

Maybe that could be your own personal goal. Go home and treat your family like you have never met them before! I promise you they will notice...lol. You will most likely reap the benefits immediately. Remember, a little bit of consideration goes a long way.

A Few Tips About Dating

2008-08-08T07:05:00.006-04:00

So you're out there dating and you just can't figure out why you aren't finding "the guy." You think you may be doing something wrong, but don't know what it is.

Well, there's tons of things that could be happening. The first two that come to mind are:

You are giving him too much attention. I know, how could you possibly give someone too much attention? Doesn't everyone want to feel special? Well, yes and no. It is very cliche, but men like the chase - and I wouldn't be telling the truth if I said we women don't. We all like it, it's human nature. Thus, calling someone constantly, telling them how great they are all the time, and showering them with gifts gets old after a while. I mean seriously, what do you have to work for? So just take it slow and make him work for your attention.
Second, women give their bodies away to soon. Many, many people will disagree with me on that. However, men want a woman that respects herself and treats herself expensive. Sleeping with him on the third date because he said he loves you is not treating yourself expensive. That is more like Target or K-mart. Who really strives for K-mart? At that point, a woman has nothing else she can give to a man...and he has most likely not even made a genuine commitment to her and has gotten all he wants already. Sounds like a good deal if you like being single.

So ladies, hang in there. Treat yourselves like prizes to be won, and you will reap the long term benefits. Men can tell when a woman cares about herself, and a good man will like her even more because of it.

If you want an excellent book for women in the dating world, check out How to Find the Man of Your Dreams by Bob Grant. This is an e-book that you will be able to download immediately, and it is kind of like a map for your future. He leads you through figuring out exactly what you want in a man, so that you will know from the beginning if he is even worth pursuing. He also tells you some of the best places to meet men. I have read this e-book and I think it is fantastic. Take a look, you might just find the "man of your dreams."

Take this quiz...

2008-07-20T22:29:00.000-04:00

For those of you wondering if it is time to call it quits, take this quiz. I don't necessarily think it is accurate, but it will be fun and interesting. If nothing else, it will give you something to thing about. Good luck!

3 Tips to Get Him Back

2008-07-12T23:18:00.008-04:00

Take a look at this article. When you've finished reading, read my input below.

I agree with everything this article says except Step #3. I do not think you should contact him after a month. If you call him, you can jeopardize everything.

He still may not be ready to hear from you. If he isn't, you could push him farther away. You will probably even have to start everything all over again - if you haven't already lost him for good.

And, of course, you will seem desperate. Think of it from his point of view. If you call him, it will look as if you have been sitting around pining over him until you just couldn't take it anymore. It will completely undo all you have been working on for the past month.

I know its hard ladies, but DO NOT CALL HIM! Wait for him to call you. It may take a while, but I can just about guarantee that he will eventually wonder what you are doing, who you are doing it with, and call because its eating him alive that you may have moved on.

How Should You Handle the Break-Up

2008-07-03T13:10:00.005-04:00

Should you burn all of his stuff? Send him hate mail? Maybe slash his tires? Not even close - if you want to get him back.

To show him that you have moved on is the worst thing you could do to him. Act like you don't even care that he is gone.

When you don't call him or contact him, he begins to wonder why. All kinds of things will go through his mind (just the same as they go through yours.) Is she seeing someone else? Is she not answering the phone because she's on a date? Truth be told, most men are very insecure and need to be reassured. When you stop reassuring them, they begin to think you aren't interested anymore.

Take a look at the article below. It has some great advice for how to handle your break-up.

Win Him Back