Signs a Marriage Won't Work

So, do you fit into any of these categories?

Sadly, I think a lot of us do. Our generation of women has been brought up that we are equals and deserve respect from our spouse. While I agree with this, I think it has caused many women to over compensate. They end up demanding respect instead of earning it. A lot of us have the mentality, "I earn money for this family too, so I can buy and do whatever I want...regardless of what you think."

Unfortunately, that is a recipe for disaster. When in a relationship with someone, it is about what both parties want. While sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, you can almost always come to a compromise. Without a compromise and an agreement, you create resentment.

Resentment is like a cancer in any relationship. It will often lie silent until it is too late and you can't go back. Talk to your partner and work things out when the issue first comes up. I know in my experience, it has often taken more than one conversation, but an agreement can be made. When you do this, both people involved feel like they have been heard and have gotten at least some of what they want.

What do Happy Couples Do Differently?

In my personal experience, I have found that having regular conversations with each other makes a huge difference. The conversations can be about anything...the economy, gossiping about your in-laws, your likes and dislikes in food, or where you would go if you could go anywhere in the world. You could truly talk about anything. The point is to just have a conversation - whether it seems important or not.

Since I'm not a professional, I don't know why this works. Maybe as a woman, it fulfills our need to be listened to. I really don't know. However, if you think about it, any relationship you have, no matter who it may be with (friend, sister, neighbor, etc.) you enjoy being around them - and you learn so much about them when you have conversations with them.

Talking to my husband about my day and my feelings makes me feel almost relieved. Like, "There! I got it out, and now it will be okay." And deep in the back of my mind there is this feeling that it will be okay because he knows about it, and he will take care of me. That may sound odd or weird, but it's true. I think when I talk to him about my problems he also feels needed. Unfortunately, he often goes into "fix it mode" when all I want to do is talk my problem out...I don't really expect a solution.

In doing this daily talk, we learn so much about our partner - what bothers him/her, how he/she would react to a situation, we even learn about their morals and priorities.

I encourage you to set aside time each day, and just talk about anything. I promise it will make a positive difference in your relationship - I know it has in mine.

5 Things Super Happy Couples do Every Day

What Husbands Can't Resist

Do You Know the Secrets to A Successful Marriage?

This is a question that plagues many of us, and unfortunately most of us really don't have a clue what the answers are. We base our lives on the expectation that because we love someone life with them will be easy and without conflict. Truth is, nothing could be more wrong...just ask any parent of a teenager!

Marriage takes work. I know, I know -- that can mean so many things. What it essentially means is that it is a daily job. You have to focus on it, put time and effort into it, feed it, and nurture it. It won't grow or work on its own.

I seldom find an article that has true meaty substance to it, but this author really seems to know what she's writing about. So much of what she wrote I already know, but for some reason it sinks in a little more and differently when you see it in print. A lot was pointed out to me, and maybe you will take something away from it too.

A Man's Perspective on What He Notices About Women

We, as women, have a tendency to think that most men are very primal and only notice certain things about a woman, such as the size of her breasts, her seductive eyes, or her sensuous lips, but the author of this article adds a little more insight.

According to him, a man's eyes really do go beyond a woman's chest. Personally, I think a lot of what he says goes along with what Bob Grant says in The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to Leave. Mr. Grant says that men are attracted to women that are feminine.

Fortunately for us women, I think we all like to look pretty and already do the things that Rich Santos mentions, but if you don't, here's your to-do list.

1. Men notice a woman's hands. This shouldn't be a problem since so many of us get manicures and love to have a nice set of talons. What I find interesting is how men also notice the mannerisms in which you use your hands, hold, and touch things.
2. Don't forget the mane. Of course, men love long hair (sorry, but its true.) They like hair that is soft and that they can run their fingers through. This also shouldn't be an issue because if any of you are like me, your tresses are like an extension of your personality. I like for mine to look healthy and perfect, but somehow unique.
3. Be nice to people...just use your manners. I guess it goes without saying that people notice a person who genuinely treats others with respect and kindness. Apparently, it is something that attracts men...as it should be. No man wants to take a woman out that he fears will start a bar fight because of her horrid attitude.
4. What does she notice? No one likes a superficial girl. However, attention to detail is often an asset. It is a fine line that you have to tread with caution.

So, while it may take some extra time to do your hair and nails to look like a million bucks, it pays off. Not only will the men in your path notice it, it will boost your confidence as well. And we could all use a little confidence boost!

What a Man Really Wants

I just read this article, and I think it sums up what men want perfectly. The author really hit the nail on the head.

Men don't communicate with words. In fact, unless you want to continue hitting your head against the wall, you have to wait until the right time to talk to him. The only time you can talk to a man about something deep is when he is vulnerable.

There is really no recipe for recognizing when he is vulnerable, but you will know when it happens. If you aren't sure, then it is probably the wrong time. When he is vulnerable, that is the time to talk about things - he won't hear you any other time. Unfortunately, these opportunities don't come about often, so you may end up waiting a while. Just be patient, and make a mental note about what is important for you to talk about when the time is right.

You may also want to take a look at my web-page about how to be the woman that men adore.

Take a Look at this E-book

Take a look at this e-book from Bob Grant, L.P.C. I highly recommend it.

Mr. Grant has been counseling women for over 17 years. He has compiled all of the things that he has learned and found to be effective into this e-book for people like you. He even guarantees that it will work .

He tells you exactly what to do - and not do, to get your man back. A lot of you will find that you have already done some of the things that he says not to do. Not to worry, just move forward from where you are, and start being proactive.

An E-book For Your Marriage

I'm sure not every marriage is a work in progress, but I assume most of them are. If nothing else, marriage is taking two completely different people with different backgrounds and trying to mesh them together into one family, and that in and of itself is an uphill battle.

I read What Husbands Can't Resist recently and I was surprised that it offered so much practical information. It was written in a conversational tone as if you are speaking with a therapist. Kind of like a question and answer session. I found it interesting and enjoyable to read.

Mr. Grant, author of The Woman Men Adore...And Never Want to Leave, tells you how to spot when your husband is reacting because of something that happened in his past (long before you), why he probably doesn't always tell you he loves you, and how you can unarm him and bring him to his knees in an instant.

Although a perfect marriage is rare, a happy marriage is not. However, it takes work. You can't change the world, but you can start in your own home with yourself. When you can change your own behaviors, your husband will respond...and I promise you will see a difference.

I have personally used some of the suggestions in this book, and they do work. I'm glad I read it and I hope you will give it a chance too.

Why Do Men Really Cheat?

I found this article, Dating 101: The Truth About Why Men Cheat interesting.

However, let me first point out that I never trust percentages or statistical numbers. Just look over and read this article with an open mind to learn something - don't pay attention to the numbers.